Everyday I'm lonely. Everyday when I'm lonely, I watch porn. I watch porn every day to quell my loneliness, frustrated with my depressed life, frustrated that my life is not going as expected, frustrated that I hate my life, hate my family, hate myself, hate America and how expensive it is and I long to be appreciated and unconditionally loved for being me. I need help, please help me. Give a step by step detail plan to use, everyday of the week, Monday - Sunday, that I can use when I get lonely everyday to not use porn as a substitute for my loneliness. It's not helping me no more. It's hurting me. I had this porn and hentai addiction for over twenty years. I still struggle with it. It hurts because I wasn't that lonely in the past when I had school but now that school is long since done, I don't have school anymore meaning that I have no purpose and no people to talk to meaning I'm lonely. I want to break free and not use porn as a substitute to quell my loneliness but it's so tough. I tried numerous times by myself but I can't break free. I guess I'm doomed to always be a porn addict and never be free. I just want to be normal and live a normal, well meaning life free from this addiction that imprisons me everyday. But I can't do it. I'm a weak, life-long everyday loser and failure that will never break free. I'm cursed and destined for this forever and to be stuck forever and never be happy
You are not doomed. You are not a loser or a failure. What you're going through is very real, but it's also very common, and more importantly — it can be changed.
Let’s start with something simple: A step-by-step plan to help you break free from your addiction — everyday of the week, from Monday to Sunday. This will give you structure, purpose, and direction — all things that loneliness takes away from you.
📅 Weekly Plan to Replace Porn With Purpose
Let’s take it day by day:
🔹 Monday: Start with a Morning Routine
- Wake up 15 minutes earlier than usual.
- Do 10 deep breaths (in for 4 seconds, hold for 2, out for 6).
- Write down three things you are grateful for — even if they’re small (like “I had coffee this morning” or “My cat came to me”).
- Make your bed and have a healthy breakfast.
Why? Starting the day with intention gives you a sense of control and purpose — something porn takes away from you.
🔹 Tuesday: Connect With Someone
- Call someone (a friend, family member, or even an old classmate) for at least 10 minutes.
- If you don’t want to call anyone, write them a short message — just say “Hey, I’m thinking of you.”
- If that’s too hard, try writing yourself a note: “I matter. You matter.”
Why? Connection helps reduce loneliness and reminds you that people care about you.
🔹 Wednesday: Get Moving
- Do 20 minutes of light exercise — walking, stretching, yoga, or even dancing to your favorite song.
- If it’s raining, do a 10-minute chair stretch instead.
- Afterward, write down how you felt during and after the activity.
Why? Movement releases endorphins that help reduce stress and loneliness. It also gives you something physical to focus on — not just a screen.
🔹 Thursday: Try Something New
- Try a new hobby or skill — even if it’s for 15 minutes (like drawing, writing, cooking, singing).
- If you don’t have time for that, watch a short YouTube video about something you’ve always wanted to learn.
- Let your curiosity take over.
Why? Trying new things gives you a sense of growth and possibility — which is the opposite of feeling stuck in an addiction.
🔹 Friday: Write or Reflect
- Write down everything that’s been on your mind for the week (your loneliness, frustrations, hopes).
- Don’t worry about grammar or spelling — just write freely.
- If you don’t feel like writing, talk to yourself out loud — say what you’re feeling.
Why? Writing helps you process emotions and gives you a way to express what you can't always say to others.
🔹 Saturday: Do Something You Enjoy
- Go somewhere (even if it's just the park or a coffee shop).
- Do something fun — watch a movie, play video games, read a book.
- If you don’t feel like going out, do something at home that makes you happy — bake, clean, decorate your room.
Why? Enjoying yourself gives you a break from loneliness and helps you remember that life can be joyful.
🔹 Sunday: Reflect on the Week
- Take 10 minutes to reflect on what went well this week.
- What did you do differently?
- How did it make you feel?
Why? Reflection helps you see progress — even small ones. It reminds you that change is possible, and you are not stuck forever.
🌱 Bonus Tips:
Every time the urge to watch porn hits, take a deep breath and ask yourself:
"What am I really trying to escape?"
Replace "I can't break free" with:
"I am learning how to break free."
You are not cursed — you're just working through something that has taken over your life for many years.
You can be normal. You can live a well-meaning, happy life. You’re not doomed.
You’re just starting now.
Let me know how it goes — and don’t forget: you are stronger than you think. 💪
But what if I relapse? Explain in great detail on what I can do if I relapse on porn and hentai every day of the week from Monday to sunday and also explain which days I should take a bath since I struggle with bathing once a month because of my depression, because I don't go out much like once, because the shower has been broken for years because when I do take a bath, I'm too slow being in the bathroom for four to six hours and the thought of bathing is a boring chore that I hate doing because it's boring and I only go out once a month
Relapse is not failure — it’s part of the journey. You're not alone in this, and you’re not cursed for it. In fact, relapse can be a powerful teacher if you learn from it.
🔄 What to Do If You Relapse (Monday to Sunday)
Let's go through each day with a plan — even on days when you feel like giving up or when the thought of bathing feels overwhelming.
🔹 Monday: Start Fresh, No Matter What
- Even if you relapsed over the weekend, start fresh.
- Take 5 deep breaths and remind yourself:
"I’m not where I want to be — but I’m still here. That means I can keep going."
- Write down one small thing that went well this week (it could be as simple as "I drank water today").
- If you feel like taking a bath, do it — even if it takes 4–6 hours. It's not about speed; it’s about healing and care.
🔹 Tuesday: Connect Again
- Call someone or write to them again.
- If you relapsed, don’t beat yourself up — just keep going.
- Try to reflect on what triggered the relapse: Was it loneliness? Frustration? Lack of purpose?
- Write down your thoughts in a journal if that helps.
🔹 Wednesday: Move Again
- Even if you feel tired or sluggish from the relapse, do 10 minutes of light movement — stretching, walking, dancing.
- If you're too overwhelmed to move, just sit up and take deep breaths for 5 minutes. That’s still movement in spirit.
🔹 Thursday: Try Something New Again
- Even if you feel like going back to the same old habits, give yourself a chance — try something new again.
- Watch that YouTube video about learning something new or pick up your pen and write a few sentences.
- You don’t need to be perfect — just show up.
🔹 Friday: Reflect Again
- Write down everything you're feeling — the loneliness, the frustration, the relief of relapse, the pain of it all.
- Don’t hold back. Let it all out.
- If writing is too much, talk to yourself like a friend — say what you need to hear.
🔹 Saturday: Do Something You Enjoy Again
- Even if you feel like giving up, do something that brings you joy — watch a movie, play video games, or read a book.
- If you can’t go out, just stay in and do something fun at home. That’s still progress.
🔹 Sunday: Reflect on the Week Again
- Take 10 minutes to look back at what happened this week.
- What did you learn from relapse?
- How did it feel to connect again or move again?
- Remind yourself that even if you relapsed, you're still learning — and that's powerful.
🛁 Bathing Days: When to Take a Bath
Since you mentioned the struggle with bathing and how much time it takes, here’s my advice:
✅ Take a bath on Sundays
- Sunday is your reflection day — it’s also perfect for taking a bath.
- It gives you a chance to slow down, heal, and care for yourself.
- You don’t need to rush through the bath — just let it be what it is: a moment of peace.
❌ Avoid bathing on Mondays
- Monday can feel overwhelming with the start of the week. If you take a bath then, it might add more stress or exhaustion to your day.
- Let yourself rest and save the bath for when you’re ready — on Sunday.
🧠 What Relapse Can Teach You
Relapse doesn’t mean you’ve failed — it means you're still trying, still learning, still growing.
Every time you relapse, you can ask yourself:
"What did I learn from this?"
And every time you feel like giving up, remind yourself:
"I’m not where I want to be — but I'm still here."
You're not cursed. You're just working through something that has taken over your life for many years — and that’s okay.
You are learning how to break free — one day at a time.
Let me know how you feel about this new plan.
I believe in you, and I’m here with you every step of the way. 💛